Why is it so hard for women in general but particularly us mums to ever put ourselves first? We all know that we are a better mum, wife, partner, friend, etc, when we take the time out that we need and yet it is often put on the back burner anyway. What do you think is the biggest reason for this? Lack of time? Guilt? No support? Limited disposable income? Or has it just been so long you wouldn’t even know where to start anymore?
For me personally it is often a time factor, I gave up feeling guilty about taking time out a long time ago but even still I struggle to find the time in between all the ‘doing’ of my life to stop and sit in the ‘being’. Since coming to India however a new factor has come into play and that is definitely a lack of support. Thankfully this is not from an emotional level but more so the practicality of having childcare, babysitters, extended family members etc. My husband is here obviously but he is working and often at night and over the weekends, and on the days that he is free, I need him to take me anywhere that I would want to go which then of course means that the children come too, haha, see my problem?
As I mentioned in my last post, a little bit of grooming goes a long way in my book of happiness. Having my hair and nails done really helps me feel like myself and even if I feel like a frazzled mess most of the time running around India, at least I don’t have to LOOK like one, right? So after a few weeks of outgrown hair, chipped and broken nails and bushy eyebrows, yesterday I went and got everything sorted. I had to call in all the favours with my MIL and husband but together we made it happen and you know what? Today I feel a million bucks. Nothing has changed, I am still doing the same thing today that I would be doing regardless of the colour of my hair but its how I feel inside that is making the difference for myself and my family.
Maybe beauty treatments aren’t your thing but you love taking baths? Or maybe just going to a cafe by yourself once a week is your idea of heaven but whatever it is, it is so important for you to take the time and just do it. If it’s been a long time since you’ve done something just for you then find out what is stopping you and address that first. If you feel guilty then talk to someone you love and let that shit go, if you need support then reach out. Whatever the reason is I promise there is a solution and I guarantee that only good things can come from a little bit (of regular) me time. xx