Well, what can I say? Week 9 hasn’t been pretty! If you follow me on social media you probably already know this and whilst I am conscious of not being a total downer, I promised that I would share my expat experience exactly how it is, so that’s what I have to do.
With that being said, I am only here to talk about my life and my experience so I don’t think it’s fair to talk about anyone else but the one thing I will say is, pwwwwoar, in laws! Why is the MIL-DIL relationship so fraught? I know that some of you out there are lucky not to experience this but I’d hazard a guess and say that many of us are in the same boat. The only difference is, you are not all LIVING in the same boat, together and to be honest, I’d advise against that! 😉
So that aside the beginning of this week saw a myriad of other challenges. Firstly I had a hefty dose of mum guilt thanks to my 15month old son constantly looking like a boxer with cuts and bruises and scratches on his face. He seems to have entered that stage where he has a never ending quest for independence and adventure which often ends in a tumble. Secondly, I had my first experience with an online troll reporting a perfectly innocent (faceless) photo of my daughter on Instagram, resulting in it being removed as ‘inappropriate or offensive’.
Not quite sure what is ‘inappropriate or offensive’ about a 2 yr old dressing up for a play at school but haters gonna hate I guess!
To top it all off on Tuesday we all got our first case of ‘Delhi Belly’ which left us quarantined for 2 days and hence we missed the Dussehra celebrations on Wednesday night. I’d been looking forward to going to this festival for weeks now and had even planned to relax my strict bedtime policies so that the kids could stay out and watch the burning of the effigy and fireworks but alas it wasn’t meant to be!
Ok, so lets get in to the rest of the week and focus on some positive things 🙂
Highlight: The kids were on school holidays this week and although we didn’t get to do much, having them home and not having to rush from here to there of a morning was nice. I’m sure that they could sense that I was feeling a bit down cause they both stuck close to me all week and the cuddles, kisses and “mommy I lub you toooooo”‘s were endless. Pretty much all the photos we took for the blog this week were hijacked by mini people, but having my two munchkins at my feet is exactly what my everyday looks like anyway!
What I’m looking forward to: So just to totally contradict myself, after a full week of school holidays, no gym, no spare time, I’m looking forward to the kids getting back to school tomorrow and our routine to start again. It’s crazy because up until 3 weeks ago, the kids were always with me. All day, everyday and that’s the way it’s been for almost 2.5yrs, but now that I’ve had a little taste of freedom and independence and of course socialisation and learning for them, I have to admit, a full day at home with them feels LONG.
What I’m missing: Feeling motivated. This week I had my first experience of losing motivation with the blog and my business. After my photo was removed from Instagram I felt hurt by the online community and then I had a few opportunities in Australia fall through because I am not currently a local. Of course this is all part of the expat experience and I’m happy to say that I feel like I’ve managed to roll with the punches and get back on track but it wasn’t a nice feeling at the time.
Are there many Indian Fashion Bloggers?
Yes there are quite a few! I’ve slowly been finding bloggers and stylists that I connect with and there are a heap of cool people out there. Most of the big bloggers are from Mumbai though as that is the fashion capital of India. I’ll compile a little list and next week I’ll share my favourites for those of you that are interested.
You look so happy, are you having the best time?
Haha! This was asked on Instagram underneath this picture:
You know what, despite everything that I’ve said about this week, I still found PLENTY of reasons to laugh and have fun. Yes, my expat experience might be difficult and challenging at times (as I’d guess most expat experiences are) but I am still happy because I have my family with me. My husband and I are completely rock solid and on the same page as to what the next step for us should be. Our kids are happy and healthy and the rest really is just noise. I know that’s easy to say but I do really believe it. Maybe the answer to that question is, no I’m not always having the best time but yes I am really happy :).
Can you get me a recipe for Naan Bread?
I got this question a while back and whilst I am yet to come through with the recipe, don’t worry I haven’t forgotten!
So that was week 9. As I said, I am really aware that everyone has their own ‘stuff’ going on in their lives and if you take time to connect with someone online, you don’t really want to be brought down by them too. However, I’ve always maintained that honesty and authenticity is so important, especially in this mum community of ours and honestly, even if I tried I don’t think I could have faked a ‘everything is perfect, my life is SO fun’ post this week lol! Having said that, it’s Sunday night and I am ready to let week 9 just be week 9 and wake up ready for an amazing week 10! Thanks for all of your continued support, I hope you all have an amazing week too. xxx